What Is ‘Cushioning’? Why You Should Be Concerned If Your Significant Other Does It To You!

(PCM) There are hundreds of different dating terms out there these days, but one of the newest ones you should definitely know the definition of is “cushioning”! We can all agree that dating can be difficult and people for some reason just can’t seem to make up their minds about who they choose to be with these days, so they figured, ‘The heck with it, why not just have it all’ and hence we have situations known as ‘cushioning’ occur.

According to Urban Dictionary, ‘Cushioning’ refers to “A dating technique where along with your main piece you also have several ‘cushions,’ other people you’ll chat and flirt with to cushion the potential blow of your main break-up and not leave you alone.’ Yeah, I don’t think it’s going that well with Dave. Luckily I’ve been cushioning him with Pablo and Gary.’ ”

Ouch! Apparently, ‘cushioning’ has been around for quite some time, but has often been referred to as simply keeping another individual on the ‘back burner’ or ‘waiting in the wings’. While the “Pablo’s” and the “Gary’s” are probably loving all the attention, our man “Dave” there is the one getting the worst of the situation. ‘Cushioning’ can be likened to cheating without actually cheating.

While you may not physically be hooking up with any of these other individuals, you are building them up and giving them hope that something like that may occur in the future. Many do not even realize that there is a significant other in the picture in the first place and may just feel that the person is simply playing hard to get. Either way, having any type of intimate conversation or flirtation with someone who is not your significant other can certainly be looked at as cheating and is definitely a cause for major concern in most relationships.

Keeping someone for a rebound is not only unfair to them, but unfair to your significant other as well.  There is a level of dishonesty in play when checking to see if the grass will be greener in other pastures. It is really not any different that actual cheating. Using someone for a ‘cushion’ is just wrong. The only way a relationship can work is if both people are truly committed to see it’s growth and success. If one person is always looking elsewhere and not willing to put in the work than it will never be beneficial to anyone. We have become a society that want’s our cake and to eat it too and situations such as ‘cushioning’ are what is bringing down sanctity of relationships and will continue to do so until people begin opening their eyes to make a change.

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Cosmopolitan Magazine Accused Of Using A Woman’s Cancer Diagnosis As Clickbait

(PCM) Cosmopolitan magazine is facing a bit of criticism after they appeared to use the story of a woman’s weight gain/loss after a cancer diagnosis as clickbait on their Twitter feed. It was not that the magazine wrote a bad story, it was more of an example of poor phrasing used by Cosmos’ social media team when promoting the feature. The story overall was about how a woman named Simone Harbinson from Melbourne, Australia, was diagnosed with a rare and malignant form of cancer of the appendix and it caused her to both gain and then lose weight.

When Cosmo posted about the article on Twitter their tweet read, “How This Woman Lost 44 Pound Without *ANY* Exercise”, it then featured a link to the article and a picture of Harbinson. Everyone is up in arms because happily Harbinsons’ cancer surgery was a success, however she gained 35 pounds in the process. She then went on to lose the excess weight by simply going on a diet. You can see that Cosmos’ tweet was only worded that way to get attention and a horrific disease like cancer should never be looked as a successful weight loss or gain solution. It is a very disrespectful headline to Harbinson and all others who have battled cancer or are currently battling the disease.

The article does explain how Harbinson lost the excess weight without going to the gym, but there is definitely a bit more to the story. She goes into great detail about her cancer diagnosis, recovery and steps she needed to follow to lose weight. The headline makes the story appear that the cancer was the solution to Harbinson’s weight gain, but it was really the source. Cosmo received a ton of negative backlash online and have since removed the offensive tweet and replaced it with a better headline for the story. The new tweet reads, “A Serious Health Scare Helped Me Love My Body More Than Ever.”

That’s definitely more appropriate and far less offensive than the original!

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Research Reveals Taking A Hot Bath Can Be As Beneficial As Exercise!

(PCM) A new study has revealed that the benefits of taking a hot bath each day can equal out to the same benefit as taking a long walk as a form of exercise. Heck, yes! This is the news we’ve been waiting for!

The study which was conducted by the U.K.’s Loughborough University shows that both hot baths and exercise can provide someone with quite similar health benefits. The researchers conducted an experiment where they were able to show that the effects of taking a hot bath (aka. passive heating to get scientific) burned as many calories as taking a 30-minute walk. Although, of course, not as many calories were burned in the bath, as there were to riding a bicycle. Go figure!

We are still amazed to hear that the results of just relaxing in warm water could have the same effect at all as any type of vigorous activity. The researchers still want people to keep in mind that exercise “still offers the greatest overall benefit to weight control and metabolic health” , however the effects of a hot bath will aid in combating chronic inflammation and help slow blood sugar spikes after eating.

That’s enough for us! Bring on the bath bombs … we are ready to get our exercise on for the day!

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Exclusive Interview With Author Jack Ketchum

(PCM) “Who’s the scariest guy in America? Probably Jack Ketchum.” – Stephen King

I had the honor of recently interviewing writer Jack Ketchum. Ketchum is a masterful storyteller and has written over twenty novels & novellas. Five of his books have been turned into films The Girl Next Door, The Lost, Red, Offspring, and The Woman.

The Woman and I’m Not Sam were both written with director Lucky Mckee. Be sure to check out www.jackketchum.net for a full listing of his terrifying body of work.

Q: Are writers born or made due to their upbringing or social surroundings?

JACK KETCHUM: I’m no scientist, so I can’t speak for nature. But I do know about nurture. Were it not for my mother teaching me to read pre-kindergarten, encouraging my interest in and love of all kinds of reading — including comic books — I wouldn’t be here today. Then I had some great teachers along the way in high school and college, most notably my sophomore English teacher, Dorothy Senner, who assigned the class to write to a writer and see if they responded. Robert Bloch did, wrote back to me and subsequently encouraged my writing every step of the way until the day he died. A lot of doors opened for me. I owe a lot of good people big time.

Q: You have inspired a lot of writer’s including myself. What advice can you give someone who has a story they want to tell?

JK: Apply ass to chair. Make sure that before you do that you’ve read like a demon, all kinds of stuff. Then, when you think you’re ready, trust yourself and trust the story. And remember to have fun!

Q: Are there any upcoming horror movies that are coming out that you are looking forward to seeing?

JK: I usually don’t know what’s coming until it’s out. I rarely watch previews and never read the trades. Horror movies have always been pretty hit or miss — you wade through a lot of uninspired drek to get to a gem. Fine. I’m good with that. But it also means I don’t get my hopes up prematurely.

Q: You and Lucky Mckee have been quite the successful pairing. How did that relationship come to be?

JK: Lucky wanted to option Red for himself to direct and The Lost for his buddy Chris Sivertson. Once I saw May I was immediately on board. Then we got to know one another, and found that we’re so like-minded in so many ways about movies, books, and life in general that collaboration seemed a natural way to go. Damn glad we did.

Q: Any upcoming projects on the horizon?

JK: I’ve got a new story collection coming out soon called Gorilla In My Room, and the 35th Anniversary edition of Off Season, illustrated, and complete with bells and whistles. After that, I suspect Lucky and I will start a new project before too long.

Q: The first book of yours I read was The Girl Next Door I was both fascinated and horrified. Do you ever go back and read a scene and get goosebumps?

JK: Not goosebumps exactly. But last year I did the audio version of The Girl Next Door, and prior to that I’d never read it out loud. So, there were places where I had to stop myself and say, good grief, I wrote that? Really? That’s really harsh!

Q: You grew up in New Jersey and worked various jobs before writing full time. Do you ever run into childhood friends or coworkers that have read your work?

JK: Happily, there have been a few who’ve found me along the way, including a woman last year who I was absolutely nuts about in college. She went and read everything I wrote in a matter of a few months. And I gotta say, I loved it.

Q: Favorite place to get inspiration?

JK: Lying in bed with my nose in a book.

Q: Do you write every day?

JK: Perish the thought! I’m not driven to write. I take time off for actual life in between projects. Though when I’m doing a longer piece, a book or a screenplay, then I do write something each day, even if it’s only a few paragraphs, just to keep it flowing and hold onto the continuity. Otherwise I’ll lay back for a while and do a short story, essay or poem every now and then. It’s got to be fun for me, the way it was when I first started, or else it becomes a job…and I’m allergic to jobs.

Q: I’ve read that you loved Elvis Presley growing up. If you could have one conversation with him what would you talk about and would you give him any advice?

JK: Well, he’s dead, and I imagine that’s pretty boring, so that might limit our conversation. If I could have talked to him while he was still alive I’d have told him to dump that goddamn pissant manager of his, Colonel Tom Parker — or Uncle Tom to some of us — and strike out on his own. But if I’m talking to his spirit or something? I’d say thank you, for giving a thirteen-year-old who was just plain different a shot of courage.

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Woman Get Rejected On The ‘Kiss Cam’ But Ends Up With The Ultimate Revenge!

(PCM) Okay, folks! Here is a very important life lesson: if you happen to be attending a sporting event of any kind and the infamous “kiss cam” happens to land on you, unless you are there with a family member, if the person you are with leans in to kiss you, it is highly suggested that you kiss them back. Don’t make the same mistake as this guy!

During an Atlanta Hawks game the “kiss cam” turned on several couples but when it got to one particular couple, the guy apparently didn’t get the “kiss cam” rule memo and his girlfriend got the best revenge. The guy was lounged back sipping on this beer and when his lady friend leaned in for a kiss he refused and continued to guzzle the beer. Well, the girl was having none of that, so she looked over at the ready and willing stranger sitting next to her and they proceeded to smooch on the camera instead.

Needless to say guy number one was none too pleased, but hey, he’s the one that chose beer over kisses. Not cool, dude, not cool at all! Some people are saying that the clip looks staged as when guy number one the supposed boyfriend gets up an angrily walks away his girlfriend does not get up and go after him. He might have a slight right to be mad, but hey, she was following the “kiss cam” rule correctly! It’s not her fault he preferred the beer!

So, ladies and gentleman, what lesson did we learn here! When the “kiss cam” turns on you, you kiss! End of story and one that might not have a very happy ending if you behave like the guy at the Atlanta Hawks game!

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Could It Be That We Only Fall In Love Three Times In A Lifetime?

(PCM) There has been a widely circulating belief that states each person will only truly fall in love three times over the course of their lifetime. This may seem like a very small number given the number of relationships that people grow and develop throughout their lives, but we are talking about real true head over heels love here. It is the kind of love that has a significant effect on shaping who you become as a person and each of the three major loves leaves a major impact on your life.

The first of these three loves of a lifetime is ones first love. You could call it puppy love if you like, but it is usually the first serious relationship that a person enters when they are in their teenage years and can often last throughout high school. It is a fairy-tale type of love filled with big dreams and unrealistic plans for the future.  Even if deep within we know that this love will never last, we never plan for it to end. We are still in the process of learning about our feelings and just how to properly express them.

The second of the three major loves is the hard love or the love that teaches us some major lessons. This type of love is the one that we desperately attempt to hold onto even though things are not progressing as they should. We constantly feel that we could change or our partner could change then everything will end up working out in the end. It can be very difficult to understand that you can’t not change a person or mold them into what you would like them to become, and this love always ends in pile of misery and pain. It is from this “hard love” that we learn what we need and expect from the next relationship that comes along. We start to better learn what we are looking for in a partner, so that we can be our best selves and they can be as well.

These “hard love” type of relationships can often cycle over the course of our adult lives and it is not until we’ve had an awakening and eventually break the cycle that we can move on to the third and final love of a lifetime.  This third love is the one that shows up when we least expect it and it is truly the one that we never saw coming. This love is very simple and has no complications. It leaves us wondering what we had been doing our whole lives until this person showed up. There are no expectations or preconceived notions when we find this type of love, but it is the best example of perfection, as everything feels exactly the way it should and many feel as if many aspects of their lives have finally fallen into place. With this third and final love, we finally learn that we are worthy and deserving of true love and we are able to share that with our partner of choice.

While certainly not everyone will experience only three loves in their lifetime, as some will experience many more or many less, there is definitely a pattern that emerges as you compare the descriptions of these three major loves to the various relationships you’ve had over the course of your life and the impact that they have had on you as a person. We all, as human beings, have the ability to create our own love stories, but we definitely have to admit that many of these descriptions are eerily accurate.

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