Why Don’t You Look More Like Your Mother?

KittBy Kitt Shapiro

A woman came up to me at a recent event and asked me that very question. Why don’t I look like my mother? Wow. Is that just another way of saying, ‘why is your skin color so much lighter?’ or ‘how is it you have blond hair?’.

My parents told me that when I was born, people came to the nursery in the hospital and would get into arguments when they saw that Eartha Kitt’s baby was a pudgy, white, girl.

Now, I’m not looking to start a debate about genetics. I’m far from an expert, and really, who cares. (If you do, then I apologize for being so flippant, but, I didn’t choose my parents and can’t change the way I came out). I just find it interesting, that some people need an answer, even to a question that may not have a clear one.EarthaI think my mother got a kick out of having a child who, at first glance, didn’t have any resemblance to her. She would tell me with great pride how I “…was like a walking United Nations. Belonging to everyone and no one at the same time.” Impossible to be put into just one category or descriptive column.

Why was that so important to her? As a light skinned African American in the South, in 1927, she was labeled a “Yella Gal”, too light to be accepted by the black community and too dark for the whites. And, as a person of color in the music business, there was the need to classify her as a ‘Jazz‘, ‘Gospel‘ or ‘Blues‘ singer. My mother didn’t understand  the need for pigeon-holing a person. She would ask, “Why was it so important to make a person feel like they weren’t wanted by anybody if they didn’t fit ‘required specifications’?”  “Why couldn’t an entertainer just BE who they were?” “Why wasn’t it enough to be a member of the human race?”

People have often asked me who do I relate to most? Meaning, how do I racially ‘categorize’ myself? Well, I took my mother’s words literally. I think of myself as ‘belonging’ just the way I am and check off numerous boxes or leave them all blank, depending on my mood, feeling confident that I can either fill numerous quotas or offend many, by my presence. That being said, I realize that my responses can be interpreted as simplistic or unrealistic. I guess it’s just wishful thinking on my part.

My mother loved reading me a story by Dr. Seuss called The Sneetches, about yellow creatures that had two distinct groups: plain belly and star belly. Through machines, the Sneetches continued to switch from plain to stars, until they were so mixed up, they could no longer tell each other apart and came to the conclusion that their need to be identified by their differences was both exhausting and unnecessary. Yet, another wonderful gift my mother gave me. I highly recommend reading this story and maybe we can all be wishful thinkers together. Then, there will be no need to answer stupid questions.

Kitt Shapiro opened Simply Eartha as a tribute to her mother, with the hope that Eartha’s “writing and her wisdom and created designs continue to inspire her fans, both old and new. May they touch your heart, as they do mine.”

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Bikini Pic Of Former Model With Colostomy Bags Has Gone Viral


(PCM) British make-up artist and former model Bethany Townsend is making headlines after she posted an image of herself in a bikini laying out with her colostomy bags in full view.

Townsend has been suffering from Crohn’s Disease since the age of three, but was not officially diagnosed until the age of 11. Because of her misdiagnosis, she was forced to have 16 inches of her bowl removed at a young age and has been on steroids, infliximab, methotrexate and every other drug going as well as being tube fed for 4 years.

After five additional surgeries, Townsends’ bowl burst four years ago and she ended up with two colostomy bags. After that incident Townsend gave up her modeling dreams.

Back in December, Townsend was vacationing in Mexico with her husband and he was always telling her that she had a great body and wanted her to wear a bikini. Finally, Townsend agreed and figured that it didn’t matter because she would most likely never see any of those people again anyway.

Townsend eventually decided to share the vacation bikini picture with the Crohn’s and Colitis UK Facebook page and it almost immediately went viral.

Townsend claims that “I felt like I finally had the confidence after three-and-a-half years of having them that I wanted to give other girls the confidence, the guys the confidence, to be like, ‘we have nothing to be ashamed of.”

We certainly think that Townsend’s act of sharing was both incredibly brave and definitely inspiring!  What do you think?

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M.A.C. Cosmetics Collaborates With The Simpsons For A Marge Simpson-Inspired Collection

MAC-Marge(PCM) We absolutely can’t wait to check out the new Marge Simpson-inspired cosmetics line from M.A.C. Cosmetics while out at San Diego Comic Con 2014. We also can’t wait to see what a Marge Simpson make-over will look like!

It has recently been announced that M.A.C. Cosmetics has collaborated with The Simpsons to create their Marge Simpson-inspired collection.

The collection will be available in stores everywhere on September 4 (and online at www.maccosmetics.com on August 28) but will be sold exclusively for ONE DAY ONLY during San Diego’s Comic-Con on Saturday, July 26 at the M·A·C Cosmetics Gaslamp store located at 234 Fifth Avenue, San Diego, CA 92191. Fans are invited to visit the store for this one day only opportunity to purchase the collection and also receive a Marge makeover from the ten piece collection that includes nail stickers ($16.50), eye shadows ($44), lipglasses ($16.50), and lashes ($18.50).

Of her favorite pieces in the collection, Marge says, “They’re all so great, but I must say that Lisa’s Spikes really works well with my skin tone and of course, Beehive Blue complements my hair perfectly.”

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